IN THE MOMENT
How hard is it to be “in the moment?” Multi-tasking is what I know how to do! I can make school lunches while eating my food, text a friend, and figure out an activity for a workshop I am teaching. It is certainly a badge (made up one) that I have awarded myself, but there is another symbol I want to have too. The one of being in the present, to be “in the moment.”
The ability to multi-task is an important trait, especially for entrepreneurs, but not THE most important. Often you are so busy conducting business; you forget to look your loved ones in the eye when they are talking to you. Think for a moment how annoying it is to be talking to someone who is on their phone. It’s maddening! You wonder why you are wasting your time trying to engage this person. It’s rude! If we walked away, would they notice?
Who is the rude one?
Do your children talk to the tops of your head more than your eyes because you are looking at your phones? Sometimes I wonder how their little souls feel when they want to ask or tell me something and I say, “Hang on, let me send this email, first.”
As an entrepreneur myself, I know how much of a struggle this is every day. You don’t want to lose a potential client because you didn’t respond back quick enough.
It’s a new generational concept to have parents so engaged in technology 24/7. Most of us did not grow up this way, fighting for attention from our parent’s devices. We need to be cautious of the effects it has on our children. I’ve learned over the year’s that sometimes, you just have to create better work and home boundaries and don’t be afraid to shut off your devices.
Those around you need your best attention. Your children grow up too fast. Before you know it, they become teenagers and don’t want to spend as much time with you.
I realize this isn’t always a reality. There are times you must attend to a text or email that is time sensitive. The reality also is that only a select few responses are needed asap.
Here are some tips on how to be “in the moment”:
Designate a shut-off point when you stop focusing on email/text and designate uninterrupted family time. The kids will know not to interrupt you, and you can finish faster without stopping to answer 3000 questions or break up a fight (I can’t promise the fight thing).
Make a conscious effort to listen with intention to what your children are saying by looking them directly in the eye. This gesture may mean physically putting the phone on silent or place it in another room.
When kids get home from school, let friends, work, etc. know that this is your time with your children and a response from you must wait until after kids are put to bed or on to another activity. Put phones away during the eating time, whether in the house or restaurant.
When you take the kids to the park, be present at that moment. Leave the phone in the car and be “AT” the park. Facebook friends don’t need a picture of your kid coming down a slide as much as your child needs to see you smiling at them and catching them as they come down.
Putting the effort in your family today will be a massive investment in the future. Be intentional with your interactions through eye contact, shared laughter, shared tears and substantial boosts of love (hugs, kisses, hand holding). The reality is that when there is a screen involved, we are not engaged. There will never be regret when we choose to be “in the moment.”
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